Advice for Dommes and Subs, Written Plainly

Three guides, written plainly, covering the questions we are asked most: what the words mean, what to write first, and how to agree limits before anything happens.

Why these three

They cover the point where most people get stuck: not knowing the vocabulary, not knowing what to say first, and not knowing how to talk about limits before things get specific. Every one of the site's other pages links back to whichever of these is relevant, so you should never have to guess at a term or a first message from scratch.

Safety is part of this too

Negotiation and safety are the same subject here. Safety on Date a Domme covers money, photographs and meeting someone new, alongside the three guides above.

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